The "Blues" in Relationships.

"I'm O.K , You're O.K."

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While I was in the job, after my promotion, I had to undergo and attend the first training course for introduction and orientation to the Management Cadre.

There I came across this famous book with the above title. Though don't remember the author's name, I liked the topic.

As much as far I could understand, I felt it was quite an appropriate title to go through and learn about the management.

I'm not very sure but think this book deals with something like the child-ego, the adult-ego, the parent-ego and equally so also about the adopted-child ego.

Though I don't see this classification of much use, it helps us in understanding the way we interact with the people,  - known, unknown, relatives and strangers.

This book may perhaps help us in learning "Communication-Skills and Organisation Behavior" as well.

Not only in an organizational environment,  but also in our day to day dealings with the people everywhere.

Coming into contact with a person, thought, idea / ideology or any such a thing, implies an interaction between two or more number of conscious entities. This conscious entity, the sentient one may be called "ego". While the another one may be either another ego or an insentient material object only. And in  between are there the "abstract" notions, like the feelings, the emotions, the sentiments, memory, thoughts and the rest.

Whenever we come into such a contact, the ego once comes into play and may take any of the following three / four forms :

The child-ego,

The adult-ego,

The parent-ego and / or

 The adopted-child ego.

While coming into contact with any person, a Manager has always to face this situation where the two persons have to interact with one-another. 

A manager has always to play this dual role, of an intermediary. Where he is neither the whole-sole authority, master of the business nor the slave to the customer. He is only in the capacity and role of the facilitator who renders the services. If he has no confusion about this he could relate with the employer and the customers in a satisfactory way.

Extending this logic to the worldly behavior, we see that lack of proper communication is just because of the kind of the ego of the two persons who need to connect in another such a way that there is no confusion or kind of misunderstanding any between them.

If one of them has kind of the adult-ego and another of the child-ego and both are aware of this reality, there will be communication between them. But in case both have the ego of the same kind; say child-ego or the adult-ego, there may be disturbances and not so much meaningful communication may take place.

Most often this is the first and the only cause of misunderstanding, dissatisfaction and the  strife. Whatever be the situation, one can see if not needed one can safely keep away from such a situation.

The case of an adopted-child is however easy to resolve.

So in all relationships whether between any two or more persons (organisation) this may be of great help for everyone to see how to relate in an appropriate way.

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